Hi friends,

Crazy that we are already 25% through the year. 😅

I had a very productive - and frantic - Q1. A lot of beautiful memories and moments.

Speaking, consulting, and life-giving fellowship with new and old friends.

Stops included: London, Barcelona, Dallas, Boston, Grand Rapids, Orlando, and Owensboro (yes - as in Owensboro, Kentucky, home of the Bluegrass Hall of Fame - and a story I’ll share more about another day.) It was A LOT of travel, but I have so much to be grateful for!

Yet, a question from my oldest son, Jude, the other night felt like a gut punch.

The reason why is because here I am writing a note to you about Worthy Wins. I’ve written a book about them… And I’ve been on tons of podcasts in the last year talking about winning where it really matters.

I am so passionate about pursuing Worthy Wins, and I will keep doubling down that they are what matter most.

But the reason I started writing this newsletter and wrote the book is because I know I am at risk of spending my TEA (time, energy, and attention) on things that aren’t most important.

Or in a lot of cases, forgetting what matters most and thus not spending my TEA there.

The truth is that what matters most doesn’t always need TONS of investment, but it needs some investment.

And Jude’s question was an invitation for more investment into him.

It revealed that, in the midst of my great and frantic Q1, I had a failure with my boys.

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​THE IMPORTANCE OF CONSISTENT ACTIONS

As we were driving to soccer practice the other night, Jude asked me a simple question…

“When are we going to go on a date again? It’s been a while…”

Ugh. That was the gut punch.

Because the truth is, I couldn’t tell you when the last time we went on a date was. Everything feels like a blur.

Monthly dates are something I wrote about in the book. We attempt (apparently poorly at the moment) to have a date with each boy on the day of the month when they have their birthday. So if they were born on 5th of the month, then either Erin (my wife) or I, would have an intentional time with them on the 5th of every month. It doesn’t have to be monumental - could just be going to the store, but it’s about creating simple time of 1:1 connection amidst the chaos and juggling priorities of multiple kids.

One of the reasons I believe so deeply in small, consistent actions being the gateway to Worthy Wins is because they don’t require massive investment. They require intention and thought and planning - but they don’t have to be BIG.

Yet, I failed Jude (and our two other boys) in Q1.

Could I come up with some excuses about why? Of course. I still had plenty of connection times with the boys in the midst of all the stuff going on. Our relationships are in a good place.

But those excuses don’t matter.

I want to schedule consistent actions, like monthly dates, to ensure I’m investing into the relationships that are most important.

And I know I’m at risk of heading into Q2 and repeating the same pattern.

DOING WHAT I DON’T WANT TO DO

I’m encouraged and challenged by a letter in the Bible that the Apostle Paul wrote to followers of Jesus living in Rome. At one point he talks about the internal challenge he faces… and that we all face in how we use our TEA. (Though he did not use “TEA” in the original letter 😁).

I don’t want to skip the dates with my boys.

I don’t want to forget about what’s most important.

And yet, I do.

This all just illuminates that I will sometimes lose in this battle that I’m trying to win.

One part of the reason that Paul was writing to these followers of Jesus in Rome was because he wanted them to know that they did not have to be perfect.

First, perfection was not possible. But secondly and more importantly, he didn’t want failure to be perfect to hold them back from being faithful to what was most important.

It’s the same for me - and for you. Failures will come in our journeys to get Worthy Wins, but they are just opportunities to refocus and reorientate.

RE-FOCUSING OPPORTUNITY IN Q2

So… it’s time to refocus for the quarter ahead.

I’m going to get the dates with the boys on our calendar and follow-through on making them happen.

Undoubtedly, there will be other gut punches to come when I’ve failed to do the things I want to do.

But I hope you’ll take this as encouragement that regardless of whether you nailed or failed to get Worthy Wins in Q1 - right now is a great time to lean in and look at the Worthy Wins you want to pursue in Q2.

Below I’ve put a very simple set of questions to help you focus. You can do this reflection in two minutes - and then be set up to go after your Worthy Wins in these months ahead.

Much love,

JO

THREE SIMPLE QUESTIONS TO PURSUE WORTHY WINS IN Q2

1. RELATIONSHIP: What is ONE relationship you really want to lean into in Q2? (Your spouse, your kids, a specific friendship, your relationship with God?)
2. INTENTION: What is ONE WORD to describe what you want to be true about that relationship at the end of Q2?
3. ACTION(S): What are the consistent actions that will help ensure that’s the case?

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